Occasionally it happens that someone asks me for my Plan B in reaction to me explaining what I’m up to. What usually happens next is that I smile, think for a brief second, and then spontaneously come up with an alternative to Plan A.

I figured that I never really think about what I’d do if Plan A didn’t pan out. Perhaps it’s because I somehow instinctively know that pursuing a Plan B next to my preferred process or objective would give me mediocre results on Plan A. When I think about it, in the vast majority of cases where I was pursuing a specific goal I didn’t even have a vague idea of what I’d do if Plan A didn’t come to fruition.

Moreover, I noticed that whenever I start contemplating about an alternative to my main process or objective, it is because I’m not entirely certain about my Plan A. So when people ask me for a Plan B they usually do so because that’s precisely what they seem to sense: I’m not entirely confident about Plan A—or because Plan A sounds completely outlandish or impracticable.

On top of that, whenever Plan A doesn’t pan out—which in fact doesn’t happen all that often—I make a new Plan A. And miraculously there always seemed to be just enough time to make a new plan, which is presumably related to the phenomenon that for whatever task we approach, we need exactly the amount of time we set aside—or have available. Just like when I get asked about Plan B. If my mind is open and my body relaxed and I don’t let tension, anxiety, or fear take over my reasoning, my brain provides me with alternatives just when I need them.

So what can we take from all that?

Whenever we get asked about or catch ourselves forging a Plan B we should ask ourselves if Plan A is what we actually want to manifest. Whenever Plan B—a “what if I fail”—is in the air for whatever reason, we in fact don’t really believe in Plan A. And that’s the catch, the culprit for our failure: Whatever we want to achieve can only become reality if we believe in what we’re pursuing. Therefore, we should use the occurrence of Plan B only to sharpen our Plan A.

Any perceived reality must manifest in the mind first before it can transition into the outside world. So the next time you’re on a mission, dump Plan B and forge a Plan A worth believing in.

Have a phenomenal week!

⏤Ferdinand

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📝 Article: 1,500 People Give All the Relationship Advice You’ll Ever Need

Highly recommended compilation of relationship advice from people who have been married for 10+ years, condensed into twelve rules. The original question was as follows:

Anyone who has been married for 10+ years, and is still happy in their relationship . . . what lessons would you pass down to others if you could? What is working for you and your partner? Also, to people who are divorced, what didn’t work previously?

1. Be together for the right reasons
2. Have realistic expectations about relationships and romance
3. The most important factor in a relationship is not communication, but respect
4. Talk openly about everything, especially the stuff that hurts
5. A healthy relationship means two healthy individuals
6. Give each other space
7. You and your partner will grow and change in unexpected ways—embrace it
8. Get good at fighting
9. Get good at forgiveness
10. The little things add up to big things
11. Be practical, and create relationship rules
12. Learn to ride the waves

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💡 This Week’s Wisdom

When a person internalizes a mental schema so thoroughly, and has become conditioned to it for so long, it becomes an integral part of their personality. So to attack the belief is to, literally, attack the person. This is why we see such a violent reaction to people’s political, religious, inter-social/inter-sexual, inter-gender, etc. expressions of belief – they perceive it as a personal attack, even when presented with irrefutable, empirical evidence that challenges the veracity of those beliefs.
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People resort to denial when recognizing that the truth would destroy something they hold dear.

From The Rational Male by ROLLO TOMASSI.
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